The most important thing to remember when it comes to choosing your bridal party is to give it some thinking time. As soon as you announce your engagement, you will find that many of your girlfriends will put you on the spot with that dreaded question, ‘Who are your bridesmaids going to be?’ Some friends may even be ‘extra nice’ or may even drop hints on how they love being a bridesmaid.
You need to come up with an answer when asked if you have chosen your bridesmaids yet. You could tell your friends that you are waiting for your finance to come up with the numbers of his groomsmen so then you can finalise your bridal party numbers.
The reason why you will need thinking time when choosing your bridal party, is to allow you enough time to consider all your friends. Don’t automatically just choose your latest friends right away, the friends you may have just met at your new job and party with on the weekends. In doing so, you may forget about your old college friend who you used to share a flat with for 5 years and became like family to you. The point is no matter who you choose, feelings will be hurt; that’s an unavoidable part of life. All you can do is be true to yourself that you have considered all possibilities from your group of friends, that way you won’t be doubting your decision months later!
Being the maid of honour, is a special honour. It’s a testament to the bond you share with the bride and with this honor comes responsibility such as helping the bride plan the wedding and being supportive of her. If for any reason you don’t think that you can be her maid of honor, be upfront and tell her early on in the preparations.