Is it self indulgent to give my bridesmaid gifts that double up as jewellery that I want them to wear on my wedding day?

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Is it self indulgent to give my bridesmaid gifts that double up as jewelery that I want them to wear on my wedding day? There are two sides to this very common argument. Many argue that this is a self indulgent act. The bride is not choosing a gift for her bridesmaids; she is simply paying for some required jewelery that goes with the wedding gown and is getting out of the tradition of buying a gift.  Others will argue that the gift is tied in with a special memento of the bride’s day, a shared experience of the bridesmaid being a part of her good friend’s day. This way the jewelery will always have an added sentimental value to it.

There are several compromises that could work if you are undecided in what to do. Buy the jewelery to be worn for your wedding and present it to the bridesmaids on your wedding day with an engraved message to show your appreciation for their help such as Kim, thanks for being a great friend and bridesmaid, love Lily. Alternatively, you could opt for a simpler and smaller message such as Kim, thanks for everything, Lily or Kim you’re the best! love Lily

At the end of the day your bridesmaids just want to feel appreciated, so in addition to the jewelery, make sure that you give your bridesmaids a heartfelt thank-you card with a personalised message. It needn’t be very long, just  a message that conveys your appreciation.

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